I know the power of life and death are held in the tongue. That we are to be careful with what we speak. Yet there are times and I am guilty of this too, but I think we get so focused on a word or two that we miss the message because we become critiques passing judgment before we even see the whole picture. The years I spent working in education and with children one thing I learned is when trying to correct someone verbally you don’t just tell them they are wrong. If you shut them down they will shut you out. You first point out the good they have done, then work your way to the area where there is an error. You then go back and find another positive thing about their work or the person. This doesn’t mean that we cannot help each other when we see the errors we are making but instead of bringing down the hammer why don’t we extend a helping hand?
So the next time you read something, don’t treat it like an exam that you are grading, but look at it with the eyes of Jesus and see where the person is coming from, then maybe you could suggest a better word or term for them to use and they might be able to receive your guidance and not find offense, but a lesson from a friend. Not everyone is the same and we do not learn the same. We are also at different places than others. Some are still infants, others are children or adolescents. Some are young adults and others are adults. Then there are those ripe with age and wisdom who have experienced more than you can imagine. Yet the greatest teacher who ever walked this earth is still and will forever be Jesus. Now I will make this clear in no way shape or form am I condoning sin, just trying to share that being harsh does more harm than good. If you have the time check out an older post which I shared a lesson about how we can build or destroy titled The Hammer https://emotionalpeace.wordpress.com/2015/11/25/the-hammer/
P.S. do a self check before you offer any correction. You may have something you need to get right and correct.
James 1:19 – Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:
Proverbs 15:1 – A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
James 4:12 – There is one lawgiver, who is able to save and to destroy: who art thou that judgest another?
BibleGateway has an edifying lesson on the subject you should go to their site and read here is a commentary