1 Corinthians 13:4 Love is not rude #5

1 Corinthians 13:5

NKJV does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil;

NIV It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs

ESV or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;

YOUNG’s doth not act unseemly, doth not seek its own things, is not provoked, doth not impute evil,

Rude   (ro͞od) adj. rud·er, rud·est

  1. Ill-mannered,discourteous, or insulting: was offended by his rude behavior.
  2. a.Undevelopedor uncivilized; primitive: a rude and savage land.
  3. Crude,unfinished, or made with limited skill: a rude thatched hut.
  4. Ina natural, raw state: bales of rude cotton.
  5. Unpleasantlyforceful or harsh: faced rude winds; received a rude shock.
  6. ChieflyBritish Vigorous or robust: in rude health.
  7. ArchaicLacking education or refinement: “They were so rude and ignorant  that very little could be learned fromthem” (Samuel Johnson).

 Dishonor ( dis·hon·or )  (dĭs-ŏn′ər)n.

  1. Lossof honor, respect, or reputation.
  2. Thecondition of having lost honor or good repute.
  3. Acause of loss of honor: was a dishonor to the club.
  4. Failureto pay or refusal to accept a note, a bill, or another commercial obligation.

tr.v. dis·hon·oreddis·hon·or·ingdis·hon·ors

  1. Tobring shame or disgrace upon.
  2. Totreat in a disrespectful or demeaning manner.
  3. Tofail or refuse to accept or pay (a note, bill, or check, for example).

syn: See disgrace.

unseemly   (ŭn-sēm′lē) adj. un·seem·li·er, un·seem·li·est  1. Not in accord with accepted standards of decency or morality. 2. Not suited to the circumstances; inappropriate: took an unseemly amount of time to complete the project.

  1. Unattractive;unsightly: “The point at which the walls of suburban houses meet the lawns is apparently unseemlyand must be covered up with these stunted trees” (Amy Benson).


In an improper or inappropriate manner.

Synonyms: unseemly, improper, unbecoming, indelicate, indecent, indecorous
These adjectives mean not in keeping with accepted standards of what is right or proper. What is unseemly reflectsbadly on one’s manners or morals: an unseemly outburst; married in unseemly haste. Improper often refers tounethical conduct, a breach of etiquette, or morally offensive behavior: improper business practices; improperbehavior at the dinner table. Unbecoming suggests what is beneath the standard implied by one’s character orposition: language unbecoming to an officer. Indelicate suggests immodesty, coarseness, or tactlessness: indelicatebarnyard humor; an indelicate reference to the senator’s family troubles. Indecent refers to what is considered crudeor vulgar, especially with regard to sexual impropriety or sexually explicit material: an indecent proposal; indecentprogramming. Indecorous implies violation of propriety or decorum: an exposé of the author’s indecorous past.

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Our actions and behavior say more about us than just the words we speak. I know I do not behave as I should and that I may act in a rude manner at times without realizing that I am doing so.  Pain and not feeling well has its effect on my attitude, but this does not excuse rude disrespectful or unseemly behavior. Just because I have had a bad day does not mean that I can take it out on others. This is not the only way one can be rude, disrespectful, or unseemly. I hate it when I snap at a person for any reason, but I do this at times, and the reason does not matter because I know it is not how God would like to see me behave towards anyone. My actions and reactions without love can cause harm and this is something that I do not want to do. I have been hurt enough in my life and I know I have hurt others. I cannot change what has been done, and I cannot change how others behave, but I can take accountability for my own actions, and make the changes that need to be made in myself. Of course I need God’s help and guidance to do this. So I submit to His will and follow Jesus, who is The Word, and my Savior.

Have you ever been sprayed by a skunk? If you have you know how difficult it is and how much time it takes to get rid of the stink. The same can be said about the sin in our lives. It leaves a stink on us and some of us become nose blind to the stench it leaves on us. Yet with submission to God’s will and receiving His love through His Son Jesus we become a pleasing aroma.

Ephesians 5:2 ESV And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.

2 Corinthians 2:14-17 ESV But thanks be to God, who in Christ always leads us in triumphal procession, and through us spreads the fragrance of the knowledge of him everywhere. For we are the aroma of Christ to God among those who are being saved and among those who are perishing, to one a fragrance from death to death, to the other a fragrance from life to life. Who is sufficient for these things? For we are not, like so many, peddlers of God’s word, but as men of sincerity, as commissioned by God, in the sight of God we speak in Christ.

1 Peter 4:8 ESV Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.

Questions for thought and comments.

Think about a time when someone was rude or disrespectful to you. How did that make you feel?

Can you remember how you reacted?

How can you apply this part of this scripture to your own life?


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