Please stop telling me I need a man… Rant for the day

 

The other day at work one of my coworkers told me I needed a man. This of course is not the first time someone has told me this. Yet I have gotten so tired of hearing people tell me that I need a man. That if I had a man my problems would be solved. A man would make my life better. I wouldn’t be lonely if I had a man. This list goes on. I do not hate men but I also do not see them as a solution to my problems. I also know couples where one or the other feels lonely all the time. They are not happy, and these are more than likely the ones who thought getting married would make their lives better. They only deceived themselves and now they are miserable. Some only fantasize about being with another to escape their marriage, and others act on their physical desire to feel better. The problem is they looked to the wrong answer.

I have chosen to stay single while I work out my relationship with Jesus. I have to work out my own problems and become a person who is complete In Christ. I also need to learn how to trust God and not keep turning to other people for my needs to be met. I will not say this has been easy and that I do not spend my nights alone. It has been over five years since my last date, but I started seeing that dating is not found in the Bible. Isaac and Rebekkah are my go to story in the Bible of how God brought two people together. Paul also discusses the problems of marriage but says it is better t marry than to burn. “To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is well for them to remain single as I do. But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to be aflame with passion.” (1 Corinthians 7:8-9 RSV)

Paul has words for the unmarried and the married…1 Corinthians 7:25-40

The Unmarried and the Widowed

25Now concerningf the betrothed,g I have no command from the Lord, but I give my judgment as one who by the Lord’s mercy is trustworthy. 26I think that in view of the presenth distress it is good for a person to remain as he is. 27Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be free. Are you free from a wife? Do not seek a wife. 28But if you do marry, you have not sinned, and if a betrothed womani marries, she has not sinned. Yet those who marry will have worldly troubles, and I would spare you that.29This is what I mean, brothers: the appointed time has grown very short. From now on, let those who have wives live as though they had none, 30and those who mourn as though they were not mourning, and those who rejoice as though they were not rejoicing, and those who buy as though they had no goods, 31and those who deal with the world as though they had no dealings with it. For the present form of this world is passing away.

32I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord.33But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, 34and his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband. 35I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord.

36If anyone thinks that he is not behaving properly toward his betrothed,j if hisk passions are strong, and it has to be, let him do as he wishes: let them marry—it is no sin. 37But whoever is firmly established in his heart, being under no necessity but having his desire under control, and has determined this in his heart, to keep her as his betrothed, he will do well. 38So then he who marries his betrothed does well, and he who refrains from marriage will do even better.

39A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. 40Yet in my judgment she is happier if she remains as she is. And I think that I too have the Spirit of God.

I do not need a man I need Jesus and i need to grow in Christ and become a woman worthy of a man God can choose for me.

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