Abusive Compliments

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It is hard to imagine a compliment being abusive. After all, we expect that a compliment will make us feel really good about ourselves. We expect that a compliment is given in sincerity, but very often a compliment is given for completely different reasons. An abuser often offers a backhanded or an abusive compliment as a sneaky way of hurting aiStock_000008144236XSmallnd undermining the victim. It really is rather unexpected and rude to offer a compliment to someone while at the same time throwing in a rude, unkind, sarcastic or untrue insult at the same time. It is really easy to ignore and twist abusive compliments because they are hidden insults.

An abusive or backhanded compliment is not really a compliment at all, in fact, it is an insult in disguise. Abusive compliments are always degrading and always hurtful.  It is delivered in such a way as to draw into question the very thing the compliment is about. For…

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