The term ‘Toxic Relationship” can be applied to a number of relationships we may have. What makes the relationship toxic? Well there can be a number of reason to label a relationship toxic. The word ‘Toxic’ implies that it is poisonous, harmful and even deadly. A relationship is obviously toxic when you can see the outward signs of abuse. Bruises, black eyes, and broken bones, are signs you can see. What about the unseen? The emotional and mental damaged being done that the eyes do not always detect. What ever the excuse or reason that we may have to stay in these relationships, there comes a time when we need to realize that we are doing more harm than good to ourselves and to the other person. We may have the need to stay to help them, but how can you save someone from drowning when you are drowning yourself?
We need to remove ourselves from harmful relationships. This does not mean you do not care or that you have to hate them to leave. Sometimes the saying, ‘If you love someone, you set them free’, is very exactly what we need to do. Staying in a harmful relationship does neither of you any good. You could be standing in the way of God reaching that person, or they may be standing in the way of God in your life. Proverbs tells us that it is better for a man to be on top of the roof with a dry morsel of bread than in a house with a quarrelsome wife. If you are a woman or a man this is telling you to distance yourself from the one who is trying to do you harm. This could be physical, emotional or verbal, no matter what it is that is causing you harm, the only way to stop it,is to remove yourself from the picture. You would not put your hand in the fire and keep it there. If you did, more than your hand would catch on fire.
Some relationships will be restored and others will come to an end. either way you will grieve the loss, whether it is temporary or permanent. It will hurt more than ripping off a band-aide, but it is a pain you will heal. Healing is the goal in letting go of a harmful relationship. It takes courage to walk away, especially when you love the other person, and they may actually love you but sometimes the only way for the both of you to find healing is to let go.
(A personal thought – bleach is a cleaner and ammonia is another cleaning product, but you don’t put the two together. Why? If combined they produces a toxic gas that will kill you.)
Last night at church I asked for prayer. My brother in Christ spoke and I listened. The first thing they said I was dead, the old me is gone, and that Jesus now lives in me, I am a new creation. Then they said that in the night when I go into my kitchen and I turn on the light the darkness vanishes, but it is still dark in the drawers and cupboards because they are closed. I need to let the Light of Jesus shine into all areas of my life.
Today I read in my devotion this-
I do not believe this is coincidence, but God speaking clearly, not only to me, but to anyone who is seeking a deeper relationship with Jesus. Let His light shine into all the areas of your life. Let go of your way of doing things and how you think, and let His WORD transform you with the power of His LOVE. Let Him be the Potter and you be the yielding clay.
Matthew 28:5-7 (ESV) But the angel said to the women, “Do not be afraid, for I know that you seek Jesus who was crucified. 6 He is not here, for he has risen, as he said. Come, see the place where he lay. 7 Then go quickly and tell his disciples that he has risen from the dead, and behold, he is going before you to Galilee; there you will see him. See, I have told you.”
2 Corinthians 5:17 (ESV) Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.
If you do not forgive, you are only sentencing yourself to prison. So forgive and receive the freedom that forgiveness brings.
Many feel that to forgive means to forget. That is not true. If you forget, all you have done is forgotten. Forgiveness takes place when you know the wrong that has been done and you show mercy and do not hold it against the one who has wronged you. This will not undo the pain and hurt that was caused by the wrong acts of the other. It just means that you are no longer carrying the burden of being their judge. Forgiving someone that has wronged you also does not mean that they will change or even be sorry for what they have done, and that you will continue to let this other person hurt you. You are free to love and be healed. What they do with the forgiveness offered to them is up to them. Some may ever think that they have ever done anything wrong. Your forgiving them will not change this. Still forgive them and pray for their salvation, so that they can experience the One Who came to forgive all who will receive Him, Jesus Christ the Author of Love and Forgiveness!
You are a faithful and devoted woman. You are properly named for you are favored. I love you, and love that you never gave up. You wanted so much to have a child. You did not give up, your prayers never ceased. You prayed when others ridiculed you, and when some even said that you were drunk. You believed in Me, and you knew in your heart that I would answer you. You told me that if I gave you a child that you would give the child back to Me and that this child would live to serve Me.
I have answered your prayers and you have been blessed with a son. You have named him Samuel, and you did as you said you would. You gave him back to Me. He was raised to serve Me and not in your home. You kept your word to Me and I know it was hard to give up a child that you had wanted for so very long. Your song of praise to Me I hold dear in My heart.
Samuel is your blessing and he will do great things. Your heart of obedience is within him and he will serve with honor. I have a purpose for his life that will bless many. He will glorify Me with His life, and his service to the kingdom of Heaven.
You are a very special woman and you are always in My heart. Your trust and faith in Me has brought Me great joy, and I love you.
Your Abba Father
1 Samuel chapters 1-3
(Mother of Moses)
No parent ever wants to give up their child. I know as a mother you did your best to hold on to your son to keep him alive. Yet you knew he would only be with you for a little while so you hid him and nurtured him till you could hide him no more. The time has come when you can hide him no more and you must send him away so that he may live.
Releasing your child into a violent and wicked world is the most difficult thing you will ever do. Yet have faith in Me, and I will protect your son and he will grow into a great man who I will use to save a nation. You cannot see this now because when you look at your son all you can see is a baby. You cannot see the future. You see this moment the basket in which you are about to place him into and you see the water that will carry him away from you. Your daughter will keep watch until he is found safe.
Do not worry, My plan will work. You long to keep him close to you but you love him enough to let him go so that he will live. So kiss your child and place him in the basket, which I will see gets him to where I need him to be. He will live and grow, and become a man. One day you will see how I too will send My own Son into this violent and bloodthirsty world so that He can save people from their sins. Your son will be safe and no harm will come to him. My heart seeks to comfort yours. I love you dear woman.
With Love and tears,
Your Abba Father
Exodus chapter 1 and 2