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I am still working on this project and the deeper I dive into it, the more not only am I learning but realizing that when it comes to relationships not only do they require a great deal of work and effort. There is no end to what you learn if you put time in effort into any relationship. Unfortunately some relationships do fail. Today this scripture came to my mind; Proverbs 25:24 Better to live on a corner of the roof than to share a house with a quarrelsome wife.
Now as I though about this scripture, I received a new revelation. This man ( and vice versa it could be a woman), did not leave the relationship or even leave the property. He simply left the fight. Being separated by a roof. He did not say I don’t want this anymore. I want a divorce. There are going to be disagreements in any relationship, and yes you are going to fight. One of my favorite movies is War Room. In one scene Elizabeth tells Miss Clara that the one thing her and her husband do well is fight. The conversation goes on, but bottom line she is told they fight but they do not fight well. There is a good fight; 2 Timothy 4:7 I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. There is fighting with or fighting against. We all get angry for one reason or another. Being angry is not a sin, but how we behave when we are angry can lead us into sin. Ephesians 4:26 “Be angry, yet do not sin.” Do not let the sun set upon your anger, / Psalm 4:4 Be angry, yet do not sin; on your bed, search your heart and be still. Selah / James 1:20
for man’s anger does not bring about the righteousness that God desires.
You fight because you are hurt, angry or a number of other reasons. Are you fighting for your relationship or out of pain or fear? Do you just give up and end the relationship, or do you fight to keep the relationship? There are relationships that do have to come to an end. I share a bit on my own marriage that did end in divorce. If the relationship is violent and abusive get out! There is no condemnation in being safe. If you are currently being abused, please seek help and get to a safe place. There is help for, and you don’t have to go through this alone.
For the marriages that one or both are not happy and just want to end their marriage, I want to ask you this why did you say “I do?” Now why do you want out? Jesus was questioned about divorce; Matthew 19:8 Jesus answered, “It was because of your hardness of heart that Moses permitted you to divorce your wives; but it was not this way from the beginning.” / Luke 16:18 Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery. Having an unfaithful spouse can and will almost always end a marriage. Yet Israel was often compared to and adulterous wife; Jeremiah 3:8
And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce; yet her treacherous sister Judah feared not, but went and played the harlot also.
So what should we do? Do we stay in an unhappy marriage, with an unfaithful spouse? I will not tell you to leave or to stay. I will ask you to think about what has made you unhappy? Have either of you been neglectful of the other? Have you acted hatefully towards each other? Have you truly tried everything to make your relationship work? I can ask a long list of questions but I will end today with this question; How would you feel if God said to you I am tired of how you treat Me, we are done. I want a divorce?
Read Hosea. I will be writing more soon.