If you are Japanese or of any Asian race I am sorry if the title offends you because that is not my intent. You see I am half Japanese. My Gigi and Baba came from Okinawa. My mother and I were born in Oahu. I grew up as a child being teased and being called ‘jap, nip, and slant eyed’ to name a few names. Do you remember the song, ‘I’m turning Japanesa’? Well I do since it was sung to me as a taunt quite often. I even was called names that I will not write here because of their vulgarity. Now the prejudice acts I have dealt with in my life are very minor. Prejudice and hatred has been around throughout history. There is not a group that has not been hated because of their race or their religion. At one time or another people from all over the world has been a slave at one time or another in history. People have suffered horrible acts because of their race. The holocaust always comes to my mind when people pull out their race card saying that they are being wronged, because I think about the terrible acts committed against the Jews and I do not hear that they are rioting are filing law suits against anyone because they have been wronged. There is a movement going on right now that has inspired me to speak up. My heart is broken over all of this hate. A person commits a crime and the people are outraged against the police? Stop hating! You only hate to stir up strife and create conflict. You do not know peace and you do not know love. Do you even know why you are angry about? You may justify your words and actions but if you are spreading hate, anger, and violence, how can this be right?
Okay now is time to bring out the big gun. At some point in a person’s life they have been treated wrong and hurt. Rights have been violated, false accusations have been made, and some have even been beaten and abused. Shall I continue to list the cruel injustice that people of all different backgrounds have faced? I have been abused, molested, and raped. I have also been falsely accused and railroaded through our criminal court system. I have been angry and bitter over the things done to me, but you know what changed me? The love Jesus showed me. When I was going through the court system and fighting for my innocence God began showing me all that His Son Jesus went through for me. Then I compared the wrongs done to me and realized it was nothing in comparison to what Jesus lived through and how He did so without a fight but with love and forgiveness. He did not ask God to curse those who mocked Him and spit on Him. He did not strike down those who beat Him, and finally He did not condemn those who crucified Him, instead He asked His Father to forgive us. His love and mercy is so great who took all the weight of the consequences of sin for every person who would ever be born and carried to the cross in His body, and He did this for even those who hated Him. Jesus is the opposite of hate, because He Is Love!
1John 2:9 Anyone who claims to be in the light but hates his brother is still in darkness.
His love drives out the darkness but He will not make you walk in His light. You have to choose to walk in love. He will not force you to do anything. You cannot blame Him for your actions and you cannot blame anyone else for your behavior. You choose to do right or wrong, but be careful not to call good evil, and evil good.
Okay now about the title of this. Once again I mean no offense to anyone who is Japanese or any other Asian. I am a J.A.P. I have taken a slang term that was meant to cause offense and this is what it means to me now. I am Jesus’ Asian Princess because through His blood and His sacrifice, I am adopted into His kingdom. So if someone calls me a Jap now I take pride because I belong to Him. I hope I have not made too many of you mad because I have said this, but it is just an example of what the world makes bad God turns around and makes something better.
Luke 6:32 “But if you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them.
Matthew 5:44 (NKJV) But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you,
I had an enjoyable conversation today with someone new. Our conversation began with some of my writing. Which continued into religious topics, from confronting sin, to love(not the romantic love but love) Then they asked me a question, ‘How do you love a person who lives a sinful life? We did not get into depth, but it was a question asked to give some thought to. We did not discuss my first thought, which was that Jesus gave His life for us while we were still sinners. What they partially wanted to know is how would this topic be received, and how would one write about this. Even though I will share my views on this subject, this post is more for discussion and wanting to know your thoughts.
So please tell me how you go about loving someone who is living a life that is objectionable to your beliefs?
Here are some of my own thoughts.
- Jesus died for us while we were still sinners. He did not wait till we followed all of His commands.
- He taught us to not only love our neighbor but to love those who hate us.
- There was the woman caught in adultery who the crowd wanted Him to pass judgement on, wanting her to be stoned. He did not condemn her but forgave her of her sin and told her to go and sin no more. He did not tell her how terrible she was but showed her love.
- The woman at the well He offered her living water before He addressed her living situation. He knew who she was and how many times that she had been married and that she was now living with a man that she was not his wife. She then ran to tell others of Jesus.
- On the cross He asked to His Father to forgive us that we know not what we do.
I have many other thoughts but these she me how Jesus loved us as we are. As I grow in His love His love transforms me. Jesus said if you love me you will keep my commands. People talk about falling in love, and love at first sight. To me this is attraction. Real love is more than that, and true love can only be learned from the One who truly is love. I am no expert on love and my relationship with Jesus is not perfect. Not because He does not love me perfectly but because I do not truly understand what love really is. As I grow in my relationship with Him I am learning more what love is and how to love. I have been guilty of being judgmental and even hateful towards others in my zeal for Christ. i have beaten them down with religious rules. I know that a life without Jesus ends in death. I have pushed people away from His love with my thinking about the need to follow the rules. I discuss this in my post
The Hammer https://emotionalpeace.wordpress.com/2015/11/25/the-hammer/
I have learned to look in the mirror and examine my own heart and actions. Seeing how much Jesus loves me and accepts me is teaching me to love others. I now see that He loves us all, even those who continue to reject Him or that who have not met Him yet. It is through us His body to show His Love to the unlovable.
Now it is your turn;
Please leave your thoughts, views, and experiences in the comments.
Proverbs 18:21 ESV Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.
A few years back I had come to realize that my speech was ugly and hateful. I had so much anger and resentment over the abuse and wrong doings that had happened to me were controlling me. I always felt the need to protect myself and the slightest wrong would allow me to justify to myself, a reason to retaliate. I did not have the physical ability to do harm but the words that came out of my mouth were as damaging as any physical damage a person could do. I had no intention of forgiving those who had hurt me. Then one day I heard the words spewing out of my mouth like lava from a volcano and realized that it did not matter how long ago I asked Jesus into my life, I had not learned to forgive as I had been forgiven. If I did not learn how to forgive all the hatred and bitterness of forgiveness would destroy me and anyone I cared about. I learned that forgiveness was not an emotion that I needed to feel, but an action I had to do, so that I might find peace.
I started keeping a journal and decided that I had to change how I spoke. Going to church alone was not going to make the necessary changes I needed to make. So every day I had to make the decision to speak words of life, encouragement, healing, praise and thanksgiving. This was not an easy task, and I failed many times, but I wrote down my failures keeping myself accountable. When I blew it and let anger or any other negative emotion raise it’s ugly head and spoke harsh and hateful words, I confessed to Jesus, repenting and giving Him thanks for His grace. I also knew that I could not do this on my own, so I searched His Word and submitted myself to His will. I knew the days of demanding my own way had to come to an end. I am no where near perfect but I am thankful that He is transforming me into a woman that is pleasing to Him, and that it is His Word that gives me the direction that I need.
A few of the scriptures I have focused on are
Proverbs 18:21, Proverbs 15:4, Psalm 141:3, Psalm 34:13
1Peter 3:10, the book of James, but some specific verses are 1:26,
and 3:2-10. Search the scriptures for yourself, because there are so many more than these few. God can change you if you allow Him to.
If you do not forgive, you are only sentencing yourself to prison. So forgive and receive the freedom that forgiveness brings.
Many feel that to forgive means to forget. That is not true. If you forget, all you have done is forgotten. Forgiveness takes place when you know the wrong that has been done and you show mercy and do not hold it against the one who has wronged you. This will not undo the pain and hurt that was caused by the wrong acts of the other. It just means that you are no longer carrying the burden of being their judge. Forgiving someone that has wronged you also does not mean that they will change or even be sorry for what they have done, and that you will continue to let this other person hurt you. You are free to love and be healed. What they do with the forgiveness offered to them is up to them. Some may ever think that they have ever done anything wrong. Your forgiving them will not change this. Still forgive them and pray for their salvation, so that they can experience the One Who came to forgive all who will receive Him, Jesus Christ the Author of Love and Forgiveness!