Today’s thought – March 7, 2017 – Miss, Ma’m, Madame, Lady, Etc…

How many of us today remember being taught to call women by respectful names. I have lived in Texas for almost 20 years now. Calling a woman Ma’m has become second nature to me. Yet I have found many women who hate being called Ma’m or Lady. I personally like being called a lady. To me being a lady is not some uppity snobby woman who wouldn’t know where the kitchen or laundry room is. Being a Lady is being intelligent, well mannered, caring, courteous, and flexible. A lady can pick up a hammer and swing at a nail if she needs to, she can hunt and fish if she likes. Although her beauty may seem delicate she has strength that she does not need to flaunt. She does not look down on others but looks for ways to help those who she can. Her compassion and grace do not make her a door mat, they only compliment what makes her beautiful to begin with. They do not have to wear elegant dresses and have the hair and make up perfect. They are beautiful and shine no matter what their attire is. They are the wives, mothers, daughters, sisters, and friends you meet everyday. Some go to work, and others take care of the home. To each other they are equals. They do not need to dominate others or tear another down. They keep away from gossip and do not spread rumors. They do not seek revenge when harmed. They cry when they see others hurting and are not ashamed when they cry because of their own personal pain. She can fit in without changing who she is. She is a Lady.

If you are a woman and someone addresses you by any of these names please do not take offense. You are being shown respect. A little while back a young man I work with called me a b***, I knew that he did not call me this to slander or insult me, it is a term many women call themselves today and even call their friend this. Yet when this young man did this I did not react in anger but firmly told him that he was never to call me by that name again, he of course said he only called me that because that is what he calls all of his friends. I told him that I was not one and would not be called one and that It was being disrespectful to me. We talked about if one wanted to be respected they need to respect others and not even jokingly disrespect another. When we call ourselves demeaning an derogatory names and then get offended when addressed with respect who is the one really in the wrong. There is also those who call themselves names that I will not list here but you know the terms and get outraged if someone else calls them the very same name. It makes no sense what so ever. Names have meanings and words have power, so when we speak negative, insulting, slanderous, and hurtful names even as a joke we are degrading each other and ourselves. You can cry out for equality while disrespecting others or yourself. If you do then you are actually saying that you want to be disrespected. For that is what you are doing to others and to yourself.  Be a real woman and be a lady.

One of my favorite scriptures regarding what a woman can desire to be is Proverbs 31. The Proverbial woman. It was not until years of insomnia that this thought hit me. This woman does not sleep. She is up before everyone else, cares for family and servants, works and cares for her home , and is the last in her house to go to sleep. Yet the one things that she is is respected. She was not complaining to her friends how terrible her life is and how unfair she is treated. She gets what needs to be done and demands nothing in return. She does not whine that she barely got any sleep or that no one helps her. She is caring and compassionate. She has an attitude I wish that I could learn to have. She is definitely a lady in my book.

Proverbs 31:10-31

The Woman Who Fears the Lord

10  4 uAn excellent wife who can find?

She is far more precious than vjewels.

11  The heart of her husband trusts in her,

and he will have no lack of gain.

12  She does him good, and not harm,

all the days of her life.

13  She wseeks wool and flax,

and works with willing hands.

14  She is like the ships of the merchant;

she brings her food from afar.

15  She xrises while it is yet night

and yprovides food for her household

and portions for her maidens.

16  She considers a field and buys it;

with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.

17  She zdresses herself5 with strength

and makes her arms strong.

18  She perceives that her merchandise is profitable.

Her lamp does not go out at night.

19  She puts her hands to the distaff,

and her hands hold the spindle.

20  She aopens her hand to bthe poor

and reaches out her hands to bthe needy.

21  She is not afraid of snow for her household,

for all her household are clothed in cscarlet.6

22  She makes dbed coverings for herself;

her clothing is efine linen and fpurple.

23  Her husband is known in gthe gates

when he sits among the elders of the land.

24  She makes hlinen garments and sells them;

she delivers sashes to the merchant.

25  iStrength and dignity are her clothing,

and she laughs at the time to come.

26  She opens her mouth with wisdom,

and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.

27  She looks well to the ways of her household

and does not eat the bread of idleness.

28  Her children rise up and call her blessed;

her husband also, and he praises her:

29  Many jwomen have done kexcellently,

but you surpass them all.

30  lCharm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,

but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.

31  Give her of the fruit of her hands,

and let her works praise her in the gates.

Do this but don’t do that

People like to tell others what to do and what not to do. If you do what the majority says to do then you may be accepted but do what they tell you not to do then you face being rejected. The problem with this is one person trying to control another. If you do not agree with another person the you face judgment and rejection. We want to be loved and accepted. Yet who is it that we really need to be accepted by? People either want o please other people or to be pleased by others. If you stand out and do or say things others do not agree with then you are wrong. The world we live in is divided. Even the body of Christ is divided. There has always been division. We say to agree to disagree but what we are really saying is that I am right and you are wrong. We do not want others to truly think for themselves. We want others to agree with us and by doing so they are telling us we are right. Being right is the only thing that matters. Look at all the different denominations and how even those denominations have different beliefs and divide from one another. There is no unity. We say we love but we do we really love? One thing I learned from reading and studying 1 Corinthians 13 is that love does not demand its’ own way. Yet believer or nonbelievers make demands on each other everyday. The we quarrel and fight when others do not  agree with us. If we were honest we would admit how easily angered we become over things that really do not matter. I know as I write this there are those who already disagree with me. Guess what that is okay with me because you have your own opinions just as I have mine. I know that I make mistakes and do wrong on a regular basis. One of my worst faults is I find myself judging others as harshly as I am being judged. It is a self defense tool that I use and others do as well. I am just grateful that i have some to learn this about myself and confess it openly. Leaving myself open to judgment and ridicule is not easy but it is necessary because I know whose judgment and approval that I really need is that of God. God is my judge and Jesus is my advocate and Satan is my accuser. I must throw myself on the mercy of Heaven’s court. I will never be able to please every person. Hard lesson to learn since I have been a people pleaser most of my life. Trying to fit in and do what others want to make them happy while making myself miserable. I am learning that pleasing God is more important and that I do not have to demand my own way or even demand what the world calls my rights. I have done many things wrong in my life and I have also had many wrongs done to me. I have been hurt and I have hurt others. I would be a liar if I said that I have only been a victim.At the same time I have acted like a door mat and let others walk all over me. Too afraid that no one would want or love me. Wanting to be included and accepted.  What I did not know was that I was already loved, wanted and accepted. God loved me before I was even born into this world. He loved me so much that He sent His Son, Jesus to die in order to save me from the sins He knew I would commit. He forgave me before I even knew who He was. He loved me when I did as I pleased.He loved me when I was an angry, bitter mess. He never told me that He would love me only if I did everything right and did no wrong. He just loved me and in receiving that love I have learned that I do not want to do the things that hurt Him. The love He gave me without condition is what is transforming me and teaching me how not only to be loved but how to love others who not only disagree with me but even hate and attack me. The hardest thing for me to do right now is not to react in hate or anger, I do not know God’s thoughts nor do i know all of His ways. So who am I to tell others what to do and why should I be angry with others who try to do the same to me? I need to let the love of Jesus to grow in me and allow it to flow through me. Learning to love not just those whom I agree with but those who even hate me is what will please God. I have my own opinions and point of view and because I share them does not mean I expect everyone to agree with me. There are two sides to a coin and even more opinions and point of views in this world. The only truth is Jesus and the only way to the Father is through Him. Doctrines an theology are made by man. Religion is made by man. What I need is a true relationship with my Heavenly Father and my Savior Jesus. This is what matters to me.

I am sorry (fill in the blank) Just a thought.

I am sorry if what I write or share you do not agree with. I am am sorry you feel that I am insecure because I am willing to share thoughts and opinions of others  even the ones I do not agree with. I am sorry that you think that I am wrong in doing this or for having an opinion that differs from you. I am sorry for not fitting in the mold you tried to squeeze me into. If I share anything it is not to make you believe as I do, but to share my thoughts and the thoughts of others. In all honesty the only One who knows everything is the One who created both you and myself. He is the only One, and He is the Only True God. This God, my Abba Father gave me a gift of free will, just as He gave the same gift to you. Yet who is the one trying to force their way of thinking upon others. Some of you will criticize me for speaking my mind and that is okay. Yet do not think that if I do not respond to your criticism or insults I am agreeing with you. I may respond once and at most twice to acknowledge your point of view, but if I feel antagonized or that no matter what I have to say all you are wanting to do is fight because I still do not agree with you, then expect me not to respond. You can say or write what ever you chose and that is completely up to you. We justify our actions and words every day and even use scripture to our own advantage. Taking a bit of truth and conforming it to be used not to edify or encourage but to tear each other down.

I have not perfected walking away from a fight or not having a need to argue. I am however making an effort to learn not to give in each time. Unfortunately with this post I am probably failing in doing this because even as I write this I know there will be some who are in disagreement and probably actually stopped reading what I have written before I finished and have started with their arguments against me. So why bother? To be honest I am really not sure. These are just the thoughts and words that have poured out of me this night.

There are many wonderful and brilliant writers on this site who come from various backgrounds from around the world. Even if they do not agree with others they inspire me in how they encourage others and how they love perfect strangers with kind and compassionate words.

God is my judge, Jesus is my advocate, Holy Spirit is my comforter and help, and Satan is my accuser. I am guilty of sin, forgiven by the grace and love of God and redeemed by the blood of the Lamb. I am adopted into His royal priesthood not to brag about the authority given to me but to boast of His love.

Rant! Feminists, Protests and Jesus!

So you are a feminist. Can you tell me what is feminine about you?  I am a woman and proud to be one but I do not have to be loud or vulgar to prove that. I do not have to tear down a man to make myself feel better about myself either. I definitely do not have to wear profane costumes to show that I am a woman. I get respect because I respect others. Being disrespectful to anyone for any reason and then demanding respect gets you nowhere. You think you are better because you protest just about everything and think you are equal with people like Martin Luther King Jr.?  Do you think you are Joan of Arc? How many of you think you can endure what she did? Maybe you think you are Rosa parks and that your protests are in the same level as she did as she peacefully sat in a seat at the bus only saying she did not see why she had to move. For this she was arrested. Did she use vulgarity or flaunt parts of her body or did her quiet actions speak louder than you could ever yell? She is remembered with dignity what will you be remembered with?

Here are a couple of posts that I have read about taking a stand and about these current protests that have been going on in the world today.

Today women say they want equality when they seem to be lowering themselves more and more with each passing day. Women who do not need a man to degrade them because they are doing the job just fine by themselves. Women who are angry because the tax dollars will no longer be paying for your right to kill an unborn child. Then if a woman stays home to raise her children you put her down saying she has no influence or power. I will tell you that it takes a strong woman to leave the work force to raise a child especially in this day and time. Women who struggle to raise her children to be respectable and caring people. These are the children who will grow up to be productive, compassionate and giving adults, even though they live in a selfish world.

The world has become populated with overgrown children throwing destructive temper tantrums.  Women are not alone in this all the other protesters who have rioted and looted based on racial prejudice. Well our new President has members on his staff that are both men and women and have different racial backgrounds, but you dismiss them because they do not fit in the little peg holes that fit you so called violated rights.  Blaming everyone else for the condition of this world and taking no real responsibility for your own actions.  What is heart breaking is these protests say they want peace, love and equality but are spewing out words of hate and division.

Jesus died to pay the price for the sin of every man, woman or child regardless of their race or background. He gave His life even when rejected by those He loves, yet you protesters say that God is vengeful and demanding and you want nothing to do with Him. Yet even while you are doing all of this protesting, using vulgarity and hate, He still loves you. He waits patiently for you and wants so much for you to receive His love. Jesus did not demand His rights as He hung on a cross after being beaten and mocked. Instead He said, ‘Father forgive them, they know not what they do.’

True equality will only be found In Jesus Christ for in God’s eyes we are neither male or female and He does about discriminate because of the color of your skin. He created us all and loves us all equally.

Okay my rant is done for the day.

a link to a biography for Rosa Parks, Martin Luther King Jr and Joan of Arc

The Wall

Jerusalem had a wall around it. Walls are nothing new. Jericho had a wall around it. Two walls that you will find in the Bible. In the book of Joshua you will read about the wall around Jericho. Yes the wall came down. In the book of Nehemiah you can read how heart broken he was over the condition of the wall of Jerusalem. He was not only given permission to go and repair the wall by the king but the king gave him the materials he would need to make the repairs. He fought opposition. The workers rebuilding the wall had to work in pairs so that one could work while the other rested, and they worked with a tool in one hand and a sword in the other. A talk of a wall to be built on the border between United States and Mexico is nothing new. It has been debated and argued over for just as long as the idea has been around. The time is coming though that it might actually be built. I am not writing this as an argument for or against this wall. I am writing because as I read a post on this wall and funny thing is as I read this article I wasn’t thinking about Trump or the Mexican president I thought of Jerusalem and I thought of Nehemiah. I thought of what shape Jerusalem had fallen into,that it’s walls were in ruins and needed repair, and I thought about all of the obstacles and opposition Nehemiah faced while seeking to do the will of God. This made me think about the obstacles we face today which in all honesty are nothing new.Hate, strife, violence and prejudice. We don’t fight the good fight when we are yelling and screaming insults or even whispering them. We look for ways to keep others from succeeding with their plans instead of working on solutions to fix the things we have destroyed. We care more about popular opinion than truth. We talk about the need for love while spewing hateful words from our mouths. When a wrong is done we compound it by committing another wrong. For instance rioting and destroying property while stealing is supposed to be the right reaction when an unarmed man is shot by the police? How about instead of committing crime in protest, why not help the family and support them as they deal with their loss. Professional athletes protesting our National Anthem teaching our youth that it is okay to disrespect this country, when they could be helping out the communities that are suffering? This list can go on and on but the revelation I got today is if you really want to come together for a purpose and stand for something,stand for love. Build each other up and stop tearing each other down.

Okay my venting is done for now.

God bless you because I already know He loves you even if you don’t love Him

God may we as a nation come together in the love of Jesus Christ. Though He is Your Son did not demand the rights He had as Your Son, but laid down His life for His enemies as well as those who had received Him. He didn’t die for just one person, race, or religion. He gave His life to pay the price so that we may all receive Your mercy and forgiveness. Showing us that you are a God of love. Father grow this love in me so that I may live my life to give Your love to all who I will ever know in this world,even if it is just a stranger I pass on the street. I want Your love to be known. In Jesus name. Amen.

Disrespect! How Could They Do This?

I live in the USA a country built on freedom. So people have the freedom to say what they want, but you cross the line when you purposely disrespect another human being. When I watched a news clip on high school cheerleaders inviting World War II Veterans to a high school football game in Pennsylvania only to protest the National Anthem knew they were disrespecting these men. These girls made them a captive audience, and broke the hearts of these veterans who served this country risking their lives fighting to protect the lives of others. They were drafted! Most did not have a choice, even though there were many who joined the military willingly. They left families and loved ones behind to go and fight on foreign soil. Now years later, these girls whose parents probably were not even born during this war are protesting something they do not even understand!

Here is the link to the video and article I watched.

SHAME! WW2 VETS Invited To Football Game…Cheerleaders Take A Knee During National Anthem [Video]

The video infuriated me. What kind of world do we live in that disrespecting our elders is okay? I was raised to say ‘Yes sir, or Yes ma’m’. We respected our elders and our service men and women who serve in our military, we respected our flag, the National Anthem, and our country. Now people have no problem stomping on the flag or burning it, and now thanks to a certain football player kneeling to protest our National Anthem, others are following in his steps. These girls however did not just disrespect the Anthem they disrespected these men with intent of doing so. Why invite these veterans if they were going to do this? They didn’t invite veterans of more recent wars but World War II veterans who are elderly and could not just get up and leave. Seeing the tears in the eyes of the men shown in this video broke my heart as well as enraging me. I know there are those who support this kind of behavior, who hide behind the right to free speech, but to me this is not what this freedom was intended to protect. This was an act of hate, even though they say it is a peaceful protest. Yes they did not physically harm these men but they did wound them. They do not know what these men lived through, even I do not know since I was not there. I do know that they fought to protect my freedom even though they did not know I would ever exist. I doubt that they will ever apologize for their actions but I pray that one day they realize what they have done is cruel and they have hurt men who did not deserve this.

Scriptures on respect

Romans 12:10 Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.

Philippians 2:3  Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves,

Titus 2:7 In everything set them an example by doing what is good. In your teaching show integrity, seriousness

1 Peter 2:17 Show proper respect to everyone, love the family of believers, fear God, honor the emperor.

1 Corinthians 10:33 even as I try to please everyone in every way. For I am not seeking my own good but the good of many, so that they may be saved.

Romans 13:1-7 Let everyone be subject to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God. 2 Consequently, whoever rebels against the authority is rebelling against what God has instituted, and those who do so will bring judgment on themselves. 3 For rulers hold no terror for those who do right, but for those who do wrong. Do you want to be free from fear of the one in authority? Then do what is right and you will be commended. 4 For the one in authority is God’s servant for your good. But if you do wrong, be afraid, for rulers do not bear the sword for no reason. They are God’s servants, agents of wrath to bring punishment on the wrongdoer. 5 Therefore, it is necessary to submit to the authorities, not only because of possible punishment but also as a matter of conscience. 6 This is also why you pay taxes, for the authorities are God’s servants, who give their full time to governing. 7 Give to everyone what you owe them: If you owe taxes, pay taxes; if revenue, then revenue; if respect, then respect; if honor, then honor.

these and more scriptures can be found here


God help us to become more loving towards one another and help us to rid us of hate and hateful actions. Help us to do no harm.

J. A. P.

If you are Japanese or of any Asian race I am sorry if the title offends you because that is not my intent. You see I am half Japanese. My Gigi and Baba came from Okinawa. My mother and I were born in Oahu. I grew up as a child being teased and being called ‘jap, nip, and slant eyed’ to name a few names. Do you remember the song, ‘I’m turning Japanesa’?  Well I do since it was sung to me as a taunt quite often. I even was called names that I will not write here because of their vulgarity.  Now the prejudice acts I have dealt with in my life are very minor. Prejudice and hatred has been around throughout history. There is not a group that has not been hated because of their race or their religion. At one time or another people from all over the world has been a slave at one time or another in history. People have suffered horrible acts because of their race. The holocaust always comes to my mind when people pull out their race card saying that they are being wronged, because I think about the terrible acts committed against the Jews and I do not hear that they are rioting are filing law suits against anyone because they have been wronged. There is a movement going on right now that has inspired me to speak up. My heart is broken over all of this hate. A person commits a crime and the people are outraged against the police? Stop hating! You only hate to stir up strife and create conflict. You do not know peace and you do not know love. Do you even know why you are angry about? You may justify your words and actions but if you are spreading hate, anger, and violence, how can this be right?

Okay now is time to bring out the big gun. At some point in a person’s life they have been treated wrong and hurt. Rights have been violated, false accusations have been made, and some have even been beaten and abused. Shall I continue to list the cruel injustice that people of all different backgrounds have faced? I have been abused, molested, and raped. I have also been falsely accused and railroaded through our criminal court system. I have been angry and bitter over the things done to me, but you know what changed me? The love Jesus showed me. When I was going through the court system and fighting for my innocence God began showing me all that His Son Jesus went through for me. Then I compared the wrongs done to me and realized it was nothing in comparison to what Jesus lived through and how He did so without a fight but with love and forgiveness. He did not ask God to curse those who mocked Him and spit on Him. He did not strike down those who beat Him, and finally He did not condemn those who crucified Him, instead He asked His Father to forgive us. His love and mercy is so great who took all the weight of the consequences of sin for every person who would ever be born and carried to the cross in His body, and He did this for even those who hated Him. Jesus is the opposite of hate, because He Is Love!

1John 2:9 Anyone who claims to be in the light but hates his brother is still in darkness.

His love drives out the darkness but He will not make you walk in His light. You have to choose to walk in love. He will not force you to do anything. You cannot blame Him for your actions and you cannot blame anyone else for your behavior. You choose to do right or wrong, but be careful not to call good evil, and evil good.

Okay now about the title of this. Once again I mean no offense to anyone who is Japanese or any other Asian. I am a J.A.P.  I have taken a slang term that was meant to cause offense and this is what it means to me now. I am Jesus’ Asian Princess because through His blood and His sacrifice, I am adopted into His kingdom. So if someone calls me a Jap now I take pride because I belong to Him. I hope I have not made too many of you mad because I have said this, but it is just an example of what the world makes bad God turns around and makes something better.



How I see and view things will not be the same as others. This does not mean that I am wrong or that they are right. As the sun is rising in the east for me, in another part of the world it is setting in the west. If I was on the phone with a person on the other side of the world and I said ‘What a beautiful sunset’ and they responded, ‘No it is a beautiful sunrise’. Would either of us be wrong? No. We are both looking at the same sun but from different places. Now if I would call the sun the moon, I would be wrong. The sun is the sun and the moon is the moon.  Even as the view of the moon changes from a new moon to a full moon it is still the moon. If you stood one beach on the coast on the eastern side of the United States and another person stood on a beach in England, you would both be on the shore of the same Atlantic Ocean, but on opposite sides.

So why it is that Christians argue with each other over doctrines and theology?

They serve the same God, and Jesus is their Lord and Savior. Yet because they belong to different churches or belong to a different denomination they say the other is wrong. Even within your church you will find disagreements on how things should be done. Is this God’s fault? Absolutely not! What is happening in either of these situations is one person or group trying to say that their way is the only right way. Not realizing that they are all part of the same body which is Christ. One may be the foot and the other a hand, but you do not walk on your hands or pick up things with your feet. Different body parts have different functions. Yet without all the body parts, the body is incomplete. I listen with my ears and see with my eyes. I may hear something that I cannot see but because I do not see it does not mean what is causing the noise is not there. It just means that it is not visible to my eyes.

Abstract art is open to interpretation. Two people looking at the same piece will see the painting differently. It is their perspective. I love looking at the clouds and seeing the different shapes they form the reason I created my other blog site Headintheclouds746.  What I see will not be what another will see, yet we can share the same sky and see how God shows us beauty in the sky, the sea, the land, in animals, and in people, throughout all of His creation. No matter what my perspective is, He is the same today, tomorrow, and forever.